Have you ever said words, "It seems my teenager does not care about anything these days"? Well, if you're a teenager, you're not alone. I often work with parents who worry that their teens are not interested in their future or who worry that their teenager does not care about what should be important to them because they focus only on their friends or in just a moment.
Some teenage habits that may cause parents to worry about this may be:
3. Discrimination against parents
4. Discrepancies for rules
5. Master of school
6. Lack of interest in family events they were used to enjoy
7. Different ideas about the future (þ do not want to go to college.]
8. Do not be ready or able to save money if work
9. Call a job or leave a job to do social things with friends
10. Possible or risky activities
What parents often ask why their adolescent is willing to stop potentially destroying their future for "moment" stimulation or orgasm. Parents can be very frustrated and discouraged if they are experiencing this which can lead to long-lasting tension and challenge in the home.
If you are a parent in this situation, there are several things to keep in mind:
1. Normal development. It's a normal part of youth development for adolescents to feel like the world is about them. It is also natural for adolescents to focus on living "at the moment" regardless of how it can affect their future. If you see this happen to a small extent, it is very likely that your teen's normal behavior. If it happens all the time and really endangers your youth or the safety of others, it's a serious problem. In addition, if you feel like it could potentially have serious negative consequences for your teen's future (ie they do not go to school or complete homework), you should intervene and seek extra help if necessary.
2. Independent ideas. As the teens grow, they will begin to have more ideas that may differ from you. This is normal and should be allowed, encouraged and promised. Teenagers need to think independently as this is a skill we all need as adults. If you notice that your teenager does, it's important to take steps back and think about your teen's unique ideas before answering or responding to them. What do you want for yourself? What are they working on? What motivates them? How are their ideas similar to yours? Are their ideas bad or destructive or just different? This process is important because much of the other time is not as bad, it just needs to get used to. However, if you think that their "different ideas" lead to self-use, pain to them or others or will have a significant impact on their future, you may consider serious issues and want to intervene and seek help soon.
3. Possible negative impact. As your teenager starts working and thinking more on your own, it's useful if you, as a parent, can try to be neutral. This means trying to look at what they are doing and say and see both positive and negative about this. Your dream for your teen may not be their dream for themselves. What you want for them may not be what makes them happy or what makes them feel comfortable. Of course, if you think there are legitimate, negative consequences of their behavior, then you should grasp absolutely as needed.
Parents in this situation can be very worried and the suggestions above are easier to understand and accept when they are not related to their own child. However, you may be able to take a step backwards and being objective can be important in your adolescent's overall growth. If you are struggling with this process or are unequivocally aware of what is potentially harmful to something that just takes some time, you should get support from friends, other teenagers, or coaches to help you manage this complex situation.